From girl to Woman...

Girl- [gurl] noun. A female child. A relatively young woman. Immature woman.

Woman- [woo m-uh n] noun. An adult human female. Used to distinguish between girl or man.

Have you ever experienced the manifestation of a spiritual change within yourself? Have you ever FELT yourself change? Like really feel it happen…

…And as a result your mindset changes. Your thoughts transform. Things that used to seem so important now serve very little importance in relation to the bigger picture. You no longer feel the need to react to certain things in the way you used to. I’m calling it GROWTH, and not just any growth but the evolution of girl to woman.

Recently I’ve been feeling at peace. I’m learning to trust this process called life, allowing my faith to guide me and becoming more patient with myself. I’m following my heart instead of battling with my mind. I’m beginning to be more forgiving of myself instead of being so quick to tear myself down. Just truly looking at the world and the present in a new light, and most importantly for myself, learning to accept change and not fight it. Since I’ve allowed myself to do so it’s as if I’ve unlocked a new level in life... The birth of the woman I will become.

The behaviors I practiced beforehand were the reason behind the frustration I had with myself, the confusion I felt about life (I still don’t have it all figured out, but I’m living it out and enjoying the journey), the discomfort I felt about my new reality and why I missed out on some blessings that had come my way. I can only imagine how many other It Gals out there near the ages 18, 19, 20, 21 & 22 have been battling with the girl that lives within them and the woman they are trying to become. It is challenging, but love most of the fight resides within you, and my advice is to not resist that urge to change things about you. Don’t resist the growth. Let go of the old habits that are hindering your progression.

The mind scientifically changes as you mature from teenage girl to adult woman. The brain consists of grey matter (stores information) and white matter (the connector of the different parts of the brain) and it’s not until early twenties the white matter is fully developed. So at the ages of 18, 19, 20, 21 & 22 there is much room for the battle of girl vs. woman. This battle can feel like an emotional roller coaster. It is confusing. There are many highs and very many lows. As you scroll down your twitter feed you see comments like: “College has me depressed” or you personally just don’t recognize yourself anymore, and it’s because of this tug between who you were and who you are becoming. Wanting to hold onto your childhood and child-like self, but also trying to embrace your independence and maturity. Having to let go of things that once completed your world as you knew it, but just like any other living thing we are meant to GROWup into adulthood.

It Gals, if we allow the change to take place it will be worth it. It will open new doors that will satisfy the woman inside us. No, we don’t have to say goodbye to the girl that lives within us. Instead thank her for bringing us to a new chapter in life. Promise to do right by her and make her proud. Bring her dreams to life. We don’t have to forget about her… it’s just no longer about her. It’s about exploring the woman we are soon to be, and will finally become.